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Your body is yours to enjoy. It's never too late to heal, and it's always worth it!
Learning to see the hurt behind hurtful behaviours
So much of our susceptibility to messages that tell us that our appearance is inadequate derives from abuse we suffered early on in our lives. If we can come to understand this abuse better, it will be much easier to let go of the need to protect ourselves from further hurt by pursuing conformity at the expense of authenticity.
The shame of living in a natural female body
Girls and women are given messages throughout their lives that they must change the way their bodies naturally look to make them look acceptable and attractive. Many women feel ashamed if they don't conform with all these 'rules'. Is it time for a change?
You can trust your emotional pain to teach and heal you.
Fearing and resisting suffering only makes it worse! If we can learn to see the gifts in it, and be kind to ourselves when we're going through difficult times, we'll be repaid with greater freedom, and a deeper knowing of our true nature of love.
The deception of fear and the healing promise of love
Fear tells us that we won't be able to handle future adversity. But love - the sweet elixir which can ease our suffering - is always available to help and guide us.
The ecstasy of being alive, and the misleading associations that get in the way
By focussing on thoughts that tell us we need our body to look different to be happy, we create a barrier to the bliss of being alive. When we stop doing this, we open ourselves up to exquisite feelings.
You can't believe your eyes.
Appearances can be deceptive. When we don't like the way our bodies look, we are seeing ourselves through a distorting filter of judgement. Simply being aware of this can make the experience less overwhelming.
You are not a product
Viewing our bodies as products creates insecurity and suffering. When you have a felt sense of your real unconditional value, your insecurities about your appearance will fade away.
Fear of weight gain: the terror that binds us
Gaining weight is a huge fear for many people these days. It can have a detrimental impact on our health and wellbeing. Fortunately, we can let go of this fear, and have a nicer, more enjoyable experience of life.
You're not greedy
If you are overeating and judging yourself for lacking willpower, please know that there is nothing intrinsically wrong with you. You can recover.
What is beauty?
Is beauty just conformity with a list of rules - the so-called 'beauty' standards? Or is there more to it than that?
How a natural pleasure turns into a coping mechanism
When I didn't feel safe, I used food to help me calm down. When I became less afraid of my feelings, I didn't need to abuse food anymore.
How the problem with our appearance starts.
The culture in most of the world today gives us the message that the way we look is important, and some ways of looking are better than others.